Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom to Mentor podcast. If this is your first time joining, welcome. If you are a repeat listener, thank you for your loyalty. What are we talking about today? I am talking about success. What is it and why do we need it? I'm pretty sure, ladies, you're probably thinking success is I have a lot of money. I'm successful. When you think of it in that manner, you're thinking about it on a larger scale. And when you think about it being on a larger scale, then you have to think about being able to reach that goal that you set for yourself as regarding success. A lot of times we walk away, and I'll just talk about myself in this situation. That I'm not successful because I don't have a lot of money. Let's talk about what success really is. Success is identifying a goal and achieving it. It's just that simple. Big or small. But we never focus on the small. We always focus on the larger goals. And that's what derails us. That's when disappointment sets in. That's when we say, you know what, I'm just not gonna do this anymore. That's when we start to have that I give up attitude. We aim too high too early. But if we start off small, guess what? You're gonna be successful every day. Success is going to be a regular word choice with you. Now you're able to develop this positive attitude, this positive mindset is I'm gonna be successful. And when you adopt that attitude, guess what is gonna spill over to your child or your children? That is the great news because we are more than nurturers, we are mentors, we are examples to our children. And a lot of times our children's emotions are based on ours. If we're having a bad day, we're walking around mad, and they're paying attention to that, then all of a sudden their attitude has changed. Their attitude becomes negative. But when you have a positive attitude, guess what? Now all of a sudden, you're gonna start hearing positive word choices come from them. We need to integrate the word success into our vocabulary on a regular basis. How do I do that? I'm gonna help you. Listen, I'm not gonna leave you out there by yourself. Success starts with establishing small goals and achieving them. Because once you start achieving the small goals, then your chances of achieving the larger goals are going to be easier. It's not gonna be as stressful because now you know what the pattern is. Now you know what the path requires you to get there because you start small. And the one reason, again, why we fail to go that next level is because we're thinking so high. We all up in the clouds when we think about success, and really it's right down to the ground. Yeah. For instance, if you are teaching your about a particular chore to do at the house, so say we're washing dishes. You tell your child to go wash dishes, they go in, they run the plate underwater, and they think that's washing dishes. No, right? A good mom would go back and say, this is what it means to wash dishes. You pull out the dish soap, you get you a rag or sponge, and you want the water on hot. Back in the day, we used to run it into a dishpan and put a little soap in it, and that's how we wash dishes. We put the water in the dishpan, and the water can't be cold because we're talking about killing germs, because it's food that's left on these plates. So that's how you would explain that to your child. That we don't just run the plate or the glass underwater and dry it. No, you add some soap to it. That's what's gonna uh make the glass or the dish clean. Now, another day comes around and you just happen to be walking by the kitchen and you see your child washing dishes and you see them using the dish soap, you see them cleansing the dishes appropriately. Guess what? You have been successful in teaching your child the proper way to wash dishes. See how easy that was? That's where we need to start, moms. Right there at the basics, small things, and then those small things will turn our mindset into saying, Hey, I can achieve big things, and you can. And once you establish that goal, you know what it took for you to reach the small goal, it's the same process. Educate, you have to understand how to get there. If you want the big house, you want the money, you want all of these things, but then you have to put it in your mindset what the process is to get you there. And it's just that easy. Again, we have to use the word success, we have to blend it into our vocabulary on a regular basis because now you're planting that seed, right? Because I talk about how you plant character seeds, success is one of them, and it's not about the big goals you're looking for, but it's about the small things. And this is easy to do. We have been told success is the college degree, the high-paying job, having a lot of stuff. That's not necessarily success. That's how our mindset changes because if we're unable to achieve these things, then we think we're not successful, and that's not okay. But success is also just freedom, you don't owe anybody no debt, peace of mind, yeah. Set your mind on smaller goals, and you can do this. And one thing how you can achieve peace of mind, again, real simple, you don't need to respond to everything, you don't have to stay on social media for an extended period of time where there's a lot of negativity. Learn how to be disciplined, and guess what? You're gonna have peace of mind. Loving what you do is also success. If you enjoy listening to music, hey, there's nothing wrong with that, and especially if it's motivating you. So love what you do, love your job, and even if the job isn't quite what you want to do, but it pays the bills, then what's your side hustle? I think everybody has a secondary thought process on what they like to do. And mine is podcasting. I enjoy podcasting, I enjoy bringing you topics and sharing with you various things that I've learned along life's way. If your job is not what you're looking for or you want better, okay, then do what you like to do as your side hustle to create that balance. And it works. I promise you, it works. Yeah, my day job and podcasting, given what I have to do on my day job and what I do in podcast, it's a balance because podcasting is calming for me, it's therapeutic for me. Four years ago, when I started podcasting, not knowing anything about it, the resources, the tools, and the software, all of these things that are involved with doing a podcast. I knew nothing. And here I am on the verge of 20,000 downloads. Yeah, I am giving myself a pat on the back because I was able to achieve a goal, which is having people download my podcast. Now, initially, I said, Oh, if it's just one person, I'll be good. But given where I am now, it's exceeded my expectations. Now, was it easy? No. Because podcasting requires a lot of patience, and I'm deficient in that area. And I know some of you even may say, you only got 19,000, and some people may even have 100,000, and that's fine. But this is for me personally. That's why I feel successful, and that brings up a good point because we start comparing ourselves to others' successes, and that's another downfall for us. I'm looking across the fence at what someone else is doing, and everybody's unique. If you have 50,000 downloads and you were able to do that in two years versus my 19,000 in four years, it's okay. And we have to learn how to say it's okay if my goals don't match yours. I'm wonderful. And if there's another parenting podcast out there that's doing much better than mine, hey, that's awesome. That's wonderful. But I'm not gonna stop what I'm doing. I'm gonna keep going. I'm gonna keep trying to keep moms motivated and educated. And if it's just one, yeah, then I'm successful. Long story short, let's integrate the word success into our vocabulary on a regular basis. It's going to get you a lot farther than where you are. And then we start small, we don't aim for the sky immediately. You can't get to the top of the staircase without starting at the bottom. Process that, ladies. You can't get to the top of the staircase without starting with the first step. That's your first goal. And then once you start doing this, once you adopt a new mindset, now you can better educate your children about success and what that means to them. All right, I'm done for the day. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. If you did, spread the word to another mom or to another parent. I know there's some fellas out there that may be listening to this podcast as well. Share with another parent because we all play critical roles with educating our children as parents. They look to us as mentors. We are their examples. And if we set a positive example, and if we start doing a better job with educating our children, then guess what? We're going to have minimum correcting responsibilities of bad behavior because we would have done our job as far as education is concerned. All right. If you enjoyed me today, leave me some feedback. You can do it on YouTube. You can go to single momsunited podcast.com and leave me some feedback. I would love to hear from. That's right, you. See my finger. I'm pointing right at you. All right, you take care.